Dumb Boys

Love this song!!

Too cute and funny...I love it!!

Shea Rose, check her out world!!

http://www.wix.com/detroit06/shea-2010

The Break-Up song

What do you think about this?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3cnuWY-Al9A

Know Your Role

Question: Is it common to have an audience when you're in a relationship? Do we know when to close out curtains and keep the neighbors out?

Answer:

For the most part we have a hard time keeping our business to ourselves. Relationships have so many problems. And it can seem like even more when we have invited too many people into what should remain between two people.

When we bring all the extra people into our relationship, we are asking for friends to give their opinions and tell us what they think about a certain situation we give them permission to tell us what they "THINK" they would do if ever in our situation.

The reality is that there is a difference between advice and an opinion and since I don't want to give you any false information, I looked up the two in the dictionary.

Opinion: is a view, judgement or appraisal formed in the mind about a particular matter.

Advice: a recommendation regarding a decision or a course of conduct.

See...told you there is a difference.

What we need is advice from friends. What we don't need is what you think, or your judgement (opinions).

Friends (and I'm going to say this as nice as possible) need to learn to play their role when it comes to relationships. Say we have a friend named Katie, and Katie is mad at her boyfriend. Your role here as her friend is to be mad WITH her for as long as she needs you to be, and when she's over it and happy with the boyfriend again you push that incident to the back of your mind and be happy that she's happy.

Our role as friends is to be the supporting actress/actor when it comes to getting involved in our friends relationships and quarrels. Now unless our friends are being put in danger we should learn to play that role better than Denzel or Halle'.

I hope that wasn't condescending...if it was I'm sorry, but its the truth!

I'm Not Scared...Am I?

I know its been a while since I've written to you, but I guess I've been sorting through a lot of feelings and thoughts.

I'm curious as to what you REALLY think about love? Is it really worth all the trouble?

Love makes me feel like I'm fighting a losing battle. Half the time I don't know whether I'm coming or going, and feeling foolish all the while.

Am I silly for loving this hard, this deep? I wonder if we are putting ourselves through all this for nothing. If love is real then where is the payoff, and when do I get mine?

"Everyone falls, you just be careful of falling and staying there..." is that what we do when we fall out of love? Are we in a rut? I understand that love is a mutual thing or should be at least but how come when we give in to love, it feels like we end up loosing? Who is the referee and why hasn't he blown the whistle yet? I call foul, charge or something!!

Have you ever given so much that there's nothing left over for you? People we are being taken for fools in this love game! I'm not saying give up on love but instead wake up and see it for what it is...a ploy to get us to open up, be giving, forgiving and understanding, patient, supportive and even after all that there is no guarantee.

Are we going to be afraid to love the next time love comes knocking at our door, and if it does come back how will you react? Will you do all the things that you've done in this one?

"I'm not scared of lions and tigers and bears...but I'm scared of loving you," is this really what its come to?

Love is a risk that I wish there was insurance for...hmmm how much does it cost to fix a broken heart?