As I flipped through the pages of my favorite magazine (as I often do). I read an article that claimed to know what men REALLY want in relationships.
The problem with the article was that it left too much to be determined by the reader. How can we accurately give advice about what our men want from us when we as women have no clue? The obvious truth is that we don't always know what we want either.
The reason that this writer thinks that men have such a hard time opening up to us is because we (women) have the tendency to be controlling. When men do get seriously involved they fear losing themselves in the black hole that love can sometimes be. But we have to admit that the thought of loving some one as completely as we would like can be as frightening as a car accident!
But are we afraid of losing ourselves and becoming "Empty" or are we afraid of losing freedoms that we've come accustomed to in our single lives? For the most part we over analyze things to the max, when in reality we already have clear cut ideas of what we (both men and women) want.
We should stop trying to guess what it is that our partner wants from us and instead do the obvious and ASK!
Realistically men want the basics: honesty, patience, friendship, good loving, support, space, togetherness and of course love. Or as my darling put it "men want an understanding best friend minus the nagging."
Or is old saying true, men are from Mars and women are from Venus (because all Goddesses hail from there), or are we really making molehills into mountains?
Well what are you waiting for? Go ask him!
2023. (Written early 2023)
1 year ago
1 comments:
Ok...So you wanna know what guys want huh? You pretty much hit it on the head...but let THIS guy be blunt about it. Going back for a second, you said men want: "honesty, patience, friendship, good loving, support, space, togetherness and of course love." I agree with that, but I'll break it down a little further.
Here is what I and other guys that I know want: Great friendship, someone with an open sense of humor, sex...And LOTS of it, patience for all the nonsense I know I keep up...with minimal nagging, cook, space to watch the game, kick it w/ the boys, etc, and loving arms to embrace me when I'm going through hard times.
Great Friendship: what good is a relationship if your partner isn't your friend? Everyone needs a confidant and someone great to talk to.
Sense of Humor: My partner HAS to accept my goofiness and be just as goofy! Conversation is the key to a relationship and it will never go dry if you can keep each other laughing!
Sex: GIVE IT TO ME! They say sex is always on a guys mind...this is absolutely true. Being a guy, it is Literally on mind every five minutes, everyday! Its the same for every other male on earth...so please...do it and do it often. Spice it up every now and again too ;) It will keep us happy! A lil secret...its great if u wanna bribe us to do something....
Patience: As males, we do revert to childhood every once in a while. We break stuff, forget stuff, mess up stuff or just plain don't do stuff! Please be patient with us because it kinda comes with the territory and Lord help us we just cant help it!
Cook: LADIES! If u wanna keep your man happy... learn to COOK... and I'm not talkin' bout a Hungry man frozen dinner! Fill our tummy up and make it taste good on the way down and we will love you for life!
Space: Now ladies, we love y'all...but we need some breathing room to be a man sometimes. We need to watch the game while its happening, or just go kick it for some male bonding...don't take it personal, just let nature take it's course and let the men be primitive every once in a while
Loving arms: ladies, there is nothing like coming off a hard day straight into the arms of a woman that cares for you. Even though we love to be tough, rough and tumble...we need that gentle affection that we can only get from a woman. We do like to be babied sometimes...that's right i said it!
Strictly abide by these rules and success is guaranteed in keeping us happy!
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