Sometimes in relationships we find our selves holding our tongues and not saying what we really NEED to say. Why torture your self any longer? People it is 2008, time to stop keeping it all inside and speak your mind...Say What You Have to Say!
Unless you're dating a psychic there's no way for your lover to know what your thinking. And we all know how easy it is to find those?!
How come we find it so difficult to just open our mouths and speak exactly what we are feeling? And when we do work up the gumption to say what's on our minds how come we have to finagle and finesse our way into it? How come we just can't speak our thoughts clearly, precisely, and compassionately?
It is already hard enough to be forthcoming with our emotions. Trust me I know, but its even harder to tell some else how we feel when we're certain they won't understand. You should know that while you are at home wallowing in misery or upset for whatever reason, your partner is off some where happy, smiling and living their lives with no quips.
No one can know how to make you happy or what bothers you without you telling them. So take whatever avenue you deem necessary to get your point across, write a letter, send an e-mail, a text message or even leave a voicemail. We often assume that people know how we feel; but they don't so you need to be able to give a voice to those thoughts and feelings so that you're not harboring them and driving yourself over a mental cliff.
It's 2008, there is no need to walk around with a chip on your shoulder. Just say what you have to say, speak your piece and trust that you'll feel better once you do (once you speak your mind you have to be able to let it go)!
It's like therapy, but the best kind of there is...the kind that's FREE!!!!!
2023. (Written early 2023)
1 year ago
1 comments:
In this case, strictly being my own opinion...Honesty isn't always the best policy. A lot of the time it seems like if you say whats on your mind or get whatever it is off your chest, everything will be A-ok...NO. Honesty can start an even bigger fight MOST of the time than keeping quiet. I think we all want our partners to think the best of us and we in turn don't want them to hurt for stupid things we have done..So...we keep little secrets from each other...most of the time it isn't even anything important, but sometimes it's something MAJOR.
Now from a male perspective, I know for a fact that if I'm with a girl and she's mad about something but just gives me the good ole "nothings wrong"...there's a fight coming if I don't fish out whatever it is that she's holding inside. IT SHOULDNT HAVE TO BE THAT WAY. In those cases I agree with the title of this topic..say what you have to say! Now when a girl asks a guy if something is wrong and we say "nothings wrong", yea there probably is something bothering us, but 8x out of 10 we get over it if you just leave us alone about it. It also has to do with the personality of a person. If they were introverted when you first met...expect them to keep a good amount of feelings to themselves.
Sometimes the truth can hurt so bad from your significant other that they don't want to tell because they already know the outcome..."i cheated" or something to that nature. Something that you know they shouldn't have done. Not to say cheating will always break a couple up, but it will bruise the relationship and lose all trust.
Overall I think it just has to do with not wanting your partner to suffer because of your mistakes. Holding a major secret in can deteriorate a relationship over time. Being honest upfront might hurt a bit, but the wounds will heal and build a stronger relationship.
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