The Art of Foreplay

While reading one of my favorite magazines and stumbled across an article giving out tips on how to seduce your man and scents that will drive him absolutely bananas! Alright people buckle your seat belt because this ride may get a little bumpy!

The first thing it said was that women should allow ourselves to be seen Au natural for a few minutes before we get close enough to kiss. Now this is something that the majority of women have a problem doing. We are so self-conscious about our bodies and what our men think of us. It's easy to see how an eye full can add more fuel to the fire!

Surprisingly you should know that the smallest compliments are the ones that mean the most.

Now for men, a great way to turn your lady on is to kiss her, slowly. We are affectionate and love the idea of having one of those movie kisses (ladies you know the kind that makes you kick your leg up). Men take your time and kiss us like you mean it.

However; it was shocking to hear that men like to have their "cut lines" licked (a cut line is the line that defines your muscles, like the one that separates your legs from your upper body)? Guys weigh in here and let me know what you think about that, we need to know what you do like?

Smells that entice both men and women alike are the scents of: lavender, chocolate, oysters, peaches and coconut.

Yet, the question still looms: what does it take to turn you on?

The Truth, About the Truth

Like every other female in relationships I want to be told the "truth". I want an honest, up-front and forthcoming relationship...or at least that's what I say! So why is it that when placed in situations where we can be totally honest, we end up giving the official "re-mix" of the truth?

How much of the truth should we tell? I've heard over and over that when asking for the truth, we're really asking for something that we don't want. We (women and men) snoop through e-mails, text messages, and call logs just to see what we're secretly hoping isn't there, why? Every one has their reasons for lying in relationships, whether its because we're afraid of how our significant other could react or we're doing something that could bring our relationship to its demise. Either way...we're lying and in some cases without realizing that we are poisoning our relationship.

What most have a hard time understanding, is that when we do tell the truth, how come things don't get any better, how come we're not positively re-enforced for being honest? It almost makes you want to keep lying. Being 100% honest with a person is a hard thing to do, especially if you're afraid of how the person you love is going to respond. It's like telling someone you have herpes and hoping that they're not ready to kill you and tell everyone else...OK so maybe that's not the best example but you get my drift?!?

Honestly, I don't think that anyone REALLY wants to know the truth. I think we just tell ourselves that as a way to ease our minds. You could know a person for your whole life and one thing could change that would make you question your relationship. So even when we THINK we know the truth...we really don't. We only know what that person is allowing us to see; we know their version of the truth. Honesty isn't like walking and talking, it doesn't come natural to the masses, its something that we have to choose to do. We lie to cover up indiscretions, hide bad habits, to push our past even further behind us, to forget, and to keep from hurting the one person we truly love (because if you tell a lie long enough you start to believe it) but in the end the lies don't help, they just perpetuate the problem and make it worse.

You would think that after telling lies on top of lies we would run out of material, we would see the damage being done,but one lie just calls for another lie. And ironically we can't understand why no one believes us...

When you're in a relationship -a serious one at least- you have to trust your lover, your boo, your boy-toy, boyfriend, or husband with your emotions, thoughts and secrets (and loving them enough to be honest could help too). And in return they have to love you enough NOT to use those faults and short-comings against you. Now realistically who do you know that is capable of a love that deep, that will protect your heart after you've bruised theirs...?

And that dear friends is the honest to goodness Truth About the Truth... now, ain't that the truth!!!