Know Your Role

Question: Is it common to have an audience when you're in a relationship? Do we know when to close out curtains and keep the neighbors out?

Answer:

For the most part we have a hard time keeping our business to ourselves. Relationships have so many problems. And it can seem like even more when we have invited too many people into what should remain between two people.

When we bring all the extra people into our relationship, we are asking for friends to give their opinions and tell us what they think about a certain situation we give them permission to tell us what they "THINK" they would do if ever in our situation.

The reality is that there is a difference between advice and an opinion and since I don't want to give you any false information, I looked up the two in the dictionary.

Opinion: is a view, judgement or appraisal formed in the mind about a particular matter.

Advice: a recommendation regarding a decision or a course of conduct.

See...told you there is a difference.

What we need is advice from friends. What we don't need is what you think, or your judgement (opinions).

Friends (and I'm going to say this as nice as possible) need to learn to play their role when it comes to relationships. Say we have a friend named Katie, and Katie is mad at her boyfriend. Your role here as her friend is to be mad WITH her for as long as she needs you to be, and when she's over it and happy with the boyfriend again you push that incident to the back of your mind and be happy that she's happy.

Our role as friends is to be the supporting actress/actor when it comes to getting involved in our friends relationships and quarrels. Now unless our friends are being put in danger we should learn to play that role better than Denzel or Halle'.

I hope that wasn't condescending...if it was I'm sorry, but its the truth!