Lately I've been hearing people say "it's better to have loved and lost, than not to have loved at all," but is that really true? Is it better to have gotten involved with some one, become emotionally attached to them, comfortable with them and love them only to watch it fall apart?
Honestly; I'm torn. I'm a firm believer in love and all that it comes with, except when I think about how the pains of a love gone wrong are or can be too much to bear. I begin to think that it's not worth it at all. In relationships we give all we have (if you're like me you do) putting your everything into some one else's happiness and then when the relationship goes sour we're left with a void in our hearts the size of the Grand Canyon!
What are we supposed to do then? I'm learning that love is a fleeting feeling that we can only hope to hold on to. Strangely enough when we're in love we have blinders on and can only see what our hearts tell us to, nothing more or less. Only taking notice of the things that make us happy in the relationship and loving being able to make our men (or women) happy. Love makes us see through rose colored lenses, but when it's over and done should we be happy to have had to experience or angry that we got so involved?
Loving, (the right way) makes us feel like we're floating, it's a high that we get addicted to like crack coursing through our veins. We depend on our boyfriend or girlfriend to supply us with something without a face or a name, but something only they can unleash. And when its gone we go through the same levels of with drawl as recovering addicts.
I think as humans we are all looking for love in some form or another. Searching for the one thing within someone else that makes us feel complete, special, desirable and of course loved. But I'm sure that the dreaded fall from "cloud 9" is something we can all do with out.
They say hind sight is 20/20, and I believe in that 100%. I can't say whether or not I think its better to have loved and known of those feelings, than to go a life time in search of them. Love puts us in a drug induced trance, and all we're guilty of is constantly chasing the high..."It's funny when you're coming in first, but you hope that it lasts" think about it.
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Ok, now I completely agree that couples are blinded by each other's love when they are together. It's not a bad thing, but can become bad if the individuals lose all sense of "self".
Now, as far as "it's better to have loved..." I believe that in every relationship that a person has in life, a small piece of the other person is taken with them. Whethere it's a mannerism, sense of style, sense of humor, whatever....something is always subcontiously taken away from each relationship and applied to the next. Also, every relationship is a learning experience for the next one to come. So yes....I DO think that it's better to have loved than never loved at all...how else can you learn for the next step ahead :)
I THINK IT IS BETTER TO LOVE THAN NOT TO LOVE AT ALL BECAUSE WE LEARN FROM EXPERIENCE. HOW CAN A PERSON UNDERSTAND THEIR TRUE EMOTIONS FOR SOMEONE OR SOMETHING WITHOUT EXPERIENCING "LOVE FIRSTHAND??!!" I TRULY AGREE WITH YOUR ALLIGATIONS PARTNERS TACKLE WITHIN A RELATIONSHIP. WHEH NEGATIVE SITUATIONS ARISE, "LOVE" SEEMS TO PULL THEM THROUGH, DEFINING LOVE AS THE BACKBONE IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP. WHETHER THEY ARE GOOD OR BAD.IF A PERSON FAILS TO REALIZE THE SIGNIFICANCE OF THE TIME THEY HAVE INVESTED WITH THEIR PARTNER, THAN THAT PERSON IS NOT IN LOVE AT ALL.
We all need to realize that time is valuable and people's haearts are sensitive and valuable as well. If we would do that, then no one would have to question their authority of "LOVE!"
They say love is like falling off of a building. It doesn't hurt till the end......
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