A friend of mine decided to share his Valentine's Day Experience with me, and in doing so he gave me, the laugh and motivation, so desperately needed to write this.
Here we go:
He called me and told me that his girlfriend who his is usually having problems with surprised him for the evening with a basket of goodies, in which he described as being like an Easter Basket but the kind you can buy off the side of the road; and a home cooked meal...in the buff!
Now as any one can guess, this is practically every man's fantasy: food and a naked woman! Well as she began to undress, he says that her facial expressions turned from excitement and lust to disdain and discomfort. So being the "gentleman" he is, he offered to cook the meal himself. Upon doing so, his valentine began to cry, and for the life of him he couldn't understand why. Here he is thinking that he was about to get a special treat from the woman that he loves and now that he's the one giving himself the treat she has the nerve to cry?!
Clearly my friend is confused, as he should be. But are we as women just playing the role? Meaning are we pretending like something is wrong when it really isn't just to get some attention? And if this is the case, men why aren't you taking notice to our attention hoarding?
We all know that both sexes are unpredictable and unstable. So in essence neither her behavior or his response shouldn't have been a surprise, but then again, she did take advantage of the situation. By pushing him to the limit and making him feel like he's the one who does the most, always compromises and is the only one apologizing, it would bring anyone to a breaking point.
This time I won't leave you with my thoughts on this particular issue, however; a question. Ladies what do you think is going on with her and how do you feel about his reaction?
2023. (Written early 2023)
1 year ago
2 comments:
keya idk
i am really confused on y she start crying. it seems like she is going through emotional issue within herself and it has nothin 2 do wit ur friend. or mayb she felt umcomfortable bc she had never done nething like that for him or mayb just overwhelmed!!??
but i really do not hav a clue!
`Britaine'
To me it seems that she started feeling uncomfortable when taking her clothes off. I'm sure she had the whole event planned out in her head for weeks and she was confident up to the point that she needed to be then "BOOM!" she crumpled. He even noticed that her facial expressions turned from excitement to discomfort. I feel the outcome would have been different if he would have told her how beautiful she was and did more to make her feel comfortable in being naked. Maybe your friend should have been less concerned with cooking the meal and more concerned with boosting his girls confidence and telling/showing her how he's enjoying what she's doing. It seems like she was disappointed in herself for not going through with her plans and that's why she started crying. I do not feel that this is her idea of attention hoarding but rather a case of a woman having insecurities about her body and being disappointed and a little embarrassed for not finishing what she started.
To say that women are playing a role in wanting attention is crazy to me. I'm sure all women have experienced the extremes a man will go through for a minute of your attention. I feel a question asked should be, "Men why aren't you taking notice to your woman's signs of needing you on an emotional level?" I feel that this couple have deeper issues if one feels that they are always apologizing and at a breaking point. These issues need to be addressed in order for them to have a healthy relationship and be their for each other when needed.
NH
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