The other day I was talking to a good friend of mine, as she told me about a rather unique moment that took place in her love life. She and her new boyfriend whom she had been seeing off and on for the last few years broke up through a text message!
How is it that we can say that we are so dedicated to some one, we can love them so deeply and spend such enormous chunks of time with them, and still not have enough respect to end the relationship with decency and respect?
In getting ourselves into relationships we enter into an unspoken contract so to speak. We put ourselves in a position to where we are some what responsible for the other person's emotions. I don't mean that we should sacrifice our own well being and emotional stability for our partner but that we should be mindful of what and how we say things. Delivery is the key. To text some one that we supposedly care about that we no longer share the same feelings is basically a slap in the face, on both cheeks!
In some circumstances a break up over the phone is the only way to go i.e. long distance; but that's the only excuse for this kind of end to a relationship. Have enough respect to at least allow the person to see the sincerity in your voice and be able to see your face. Often times we seek closure through these avenues.
Leaving a post-it, sending an e-mail or text message is the wrong way to go about this totally. It's unfathomable to think that people actually think this is OK, seriously, where are they doing this at??
Texting a break-up is like leaving money on the night stand, it cheapens whatever it is you and your partner shared and if you love each other or care about each other even a little bit don't pimp out your feelings.
Yep! I said it, a text message!
Now I am fully aware that this is the digital age and that people are finding new and more evasive ways to end relationships, and choosing not to have the courage to sit down face to face and discuss the details of their relationship. But seriously this takes the cake. It reminds me of an episode of Sex and the City, where "Burger" one of Carries boyfriends broke up with her through a post it note. She was appalled, as she should have been.How is it that we can say that we are so dedicated to some one, we can love them so deeply and spend such enormous chunks of time with them, and still not have enough respect to end the relationship with decency and respect?
In getting ourselves into relationships we enter into an unspoken contract so to speak. We put ourselves in a position to where we are some what responsible for the other person's emotions. I don't mean that we should sacrifice our own well being and emotional stability for our partner but that we should be mindful of what and how we say things. Delivery is the key. To text some one that we supposedly care about that we no longer share the same feelings is basically a slap in the face, on both cheeks!
In some circumstances a break up over the phone is the only way to go i.e. long distance; but that's the only excuse for this kind of end to a relationship. Have enough respect to at least allow the person to see the sincerity in your voice and be able to see your face. Often times we seek closure through these avenues.
Leaving a post-it, sending an e-mail or text message is the wrong way to go about this totally. It's unfathomable to think that people actually think this is OK, seriously, where are they doing this at??
Texting a break-up is like leaving money on the night stand, it cheapens whatever it is you and your partner shared and if you love each other or care about each other even a little bit don't pimp out your feelings.
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COULDN'T OF SAID IT BETTER MYSELF...
~BRITAINE'
On a good day I would have read the text and dealt with moving on. On a bad day he would have seen my face in an unfriendly way then I would have dealt with moving on!
wow...that is a cowardly move...but i can say is that..people talk better through texting, writing, etc..than over teh phone or infront of people. if you break up wit someone via phone...text or whatever...it shows what kind of or how much respect yyou have for the relationship or that person....ignorance is no excuse...texting is jus an easy way out...but a long journey to follow....i currently find myself expressing myself more about a person through tex i.e.how i feel..whats on my mind etc.....i dont see nothin wrong with that..its depends on the situation at hand..and this situation is very cowardly....
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