How is it that we end up loving the unlovable?
What about him/her makes your heart skip a few beats when they say your name even though we know it doesn't hold the depth of love you would like it to? What about you makes you deniable, "forced to roam this planet, sadly, lonely like some used Brigitte?" Nothing. There are some people who don't want to be loved, they become unlovable.
We turn ourselves inside out to figure out if it was something we did wrong, questioning our habits and dissecting every little incident we can think of. When some one we feel so deeply for rejects us it seems to cause an emotional avalanche. Why does this person have so much power over us? We aimlessly ask "was it I loved you poorly" walking away wounded and with our hearts screaming "why not me, try me?"
If he (she) loves you, then you shouldn't have to keep going back to beg them to come back to you. If you're doing all you can to keep them happy, and making sure you're satisfied, then you can't hold on to some one who doesn't want to be held. It's frustrating to feel as though you're loving as hard and as deep as you can but it still goes unnoticed and unappreciated; but luckily there is an option: speak your piece or leave.
Sometimes we psych ourselves into thinking that we're the problem no matter what, if that's the case, then we have to be able to see the constants in our relationships if each time you get into a relationship it starts through a friend, or if you meet a bar and each time it ends badly. You may want to think about finding some one in a different location. If you're a "jump head first" kinda person you should focus on calming down and taking your time with the new love interest. Just a few suggestions!
But remember, people treat you the way you teach them to treat you. So if you're trying to get along, so will they!
2023. (Written early 2023)
1 year ago
5 comments:
It is so easy to lose yourself within someone you love. That's why it is pertinent that couples have a life together and a life apart. Nobody wants to feel rejection. Definitely not by someone they love. One should never be in a situation were they feel they need to beg their partner to stay with them. A individual should respect and love themselves enough to know that any person should feel honored to be in a relationship with them. You give up a little bit of your self- power/control in begging and that is not something you freely give away. That is something you fight for. Maybe it's my pride but I would rather be alone then beg someone to be with me on any day. I love myself and have too much dignity and respect to beg any person for anything.
in a relationship..it goes both ways..a 2way street..not 1 way intersection.....if you knw you doing the best you can in the relationship..doin the best you can..full potential..and you know you are not or have not done anything wrong..and it becomes unnnoticed, you need to sit back..reevaluate the situaition and the relationship you are end...its like saying I love you"..you should want to say it...you shouldnt feel obligated to say it, jus go through the motions all willy nilly...if so..your relationship..doesnt have any substance..it may..but the area that its lacking, may be the turning point..or potential there of...its like a job...i dont want to work for the rest of my life knowing i hate the job, but it pays good...i want to wake up excited knowing that i love doin my job day in and day out...chek may not be as good..but longs you are happy and satisfied...to be honest..as long as you are happy...i am happy...wink*....i love my job....if i could..i would marry my job...just waiting for the next layoff so i can submitt my resume'..I dont care how long it may take..i will wait...and if i was talkin to somebody at that time..i would end all ties...lol...am i off the subject abit? achem! my bad...but yea..and thats it...
dido 2 1st comment!!!
Yeah Razzle Dazzle you got a lil off beat in the end but I see the point you are making and agree with it!
OMG Is this blog about me or what!?! You are so right my KEYA!!!! Well said and I really hope your readers gain something from this blog! As far as commenting goes, Men and Women get it together! If you can’t see that your partner is a great person then stop wasting their time. Own up to your responsibility as an individual, set your pride aside and terminate those burdens you’ve placed on their shoulders. If you wanna play games, be a PIMP, just have sex, or whatever your motive may be, DO THAT!!! DO that BS with the people who like to entertain that sort of mess. Dont condemn someone because you feel you have power over them. Fact is, you are to full of yourself to realize their innocence. It’s not fair, your actions are defined as mental abuse, which causes PHYSICAL ABUSE! Love is not LOVE if it’s not a two way street. Remember to love yourself first. Trust me, they will miss you when you're gone. Being alone is not what I am suggesting, but its better to be alone then trying to prove yourself to the UNCONVINCING! I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone. That person will respect you and treat you fairly! But don't expect it to happen overnight!
~Britaine'
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