If I Were A Boy

Usually I do my best to keep from male bashing but after listening to the new Beyonce' song I have to agree with her that boys just don't understand, how it feels to be us and the things that we go through to catch their eye and maintain relationships.

If I were a boy, I would do everything I could to keep the one I KNOW loves me by my side and happy. Not saying men should bend over backwards but they should be just as accommodating as they expect us to be.

What makes it OK for men to get away with everything and we just discount it as "boys will be boys"? Double standards are going to be the end of monogamy. Men know they can get away with more, so they do. They stay out late, party all night without calling, give us half-hearted answers and always have an alibi when their story doesn't add up.

Ladies often find themselves trying to mimic they boys, but girls, here is where the problem lies...we have to realize we are not them. We just aren't built that way. Which is why we don't pee standing up.

Beyonce' should make us realize that even though sometimes we think we can go tit-for-tat with the fellas we really can't. Why is it that men can have the most dedicated, loving and supportive woman by their side and still mistreat us? Why can't they see what it takes for us to love so completely?

Men have no idea how much work goes into being us...just getting dressed is a task in its self. Curling irons, moisturizer, make-up, cute shoes, handbags, matching belts, earrings, waxing, plucking, tweezing, shaving, salon's and way too many other things involved in the maintenance of being a women; that most men take for granted. They take it for granted because they just roll out of bed throw on anything, look any kind of way and STILL a woman manages to find them attractive.

She's (Beyonce') right in saying most of the time they don't listen and for the most part they don't understand what it feels like to love selflessly. What does it take for men to love completely, unconditionally and without restriction? The world may never know.

If I were a boy, I would make sure she understood how deep my love ran, try to listen to her desires, be supportive, encouraging, assertive but not overbearing, tell her I love her every chance I got and most importantly try hard to understand that it can not be easy to love some one like me.

But all the ifs in the world wouldn't matter...I'm just a girl!